To regain the lost sexual desire, these advices will help a lot to get you on again.
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Firstly, you need to discover what is wrong with you. The desire to make love is not only influenced by physical issues, but emotional ones as well. The desire to have sex with your partner can be clearly physical, but part of it is emotional. Depression can make you loss your desire for sex, it can make a great difference.
There need to make sex a priority in a relationship, find time for lovemaking. With this society where there are a lot of activities, relationships tend to get pushed to the side and sex has sometimes becomes something you fit in whenever you can. When sex is pushed aside, passion, desire and intimacy become gradually reduce and the fact is that the more you engage in sex the more your desire and passion will grow.
Open and honest communication is very necessary in a relationship. Try to let your partner know when your sexual needs are not met. If he/she is not meeting your needs sexually, it tends to lead to anger and feelings of resentment and this causes a loss of sex desire with your partner. Share with him/her what it is you need to be aroused, if he’s the type that move straight to the genital action, let him know how you feel about it.
Moreover, forgive one another when you are hurt. Resentments, hurt feelings, anger e.t.c can cause a lack of sex desire. Be honest and open with your partner. If you have unresolved issues then discuss with him/her and let it go. Don’t bury unresolved feelings because it will go a long way to affect your sex desire. Anything that happens outside bedroom will have great impact on what happen inside the bedroom.
Furthermore, you can create the mood to have sex with your partner, you can stimulate
the desire. You don’t just wait for the mood or desire to strike on you, be willing to work
on creating the mood.
Finally, loss of sexual desire can be something physiological such as: an illness, hormonal imbalances (androgen, testosterone, progesterone, DHEA) or Thyroid abnormalities. If after some self-reflection and inner exploration you can’t put your finger on why your desire has dwindled, then see a physician who specializes in loss of sexual desire.
You don’t always have to be in the mood to meet your partner’s needs. To prevent your lover from feeling rejected or deprived, help him achieve orgasm in other ways. Have other forms of sex such as masturbating him or giving him oral.
Sex does not always have to result in intercourse. Focus on the intimacy and enjoying the physical sensations of closeness, love, sensuality and touch.
Women frequently have specific reasons for not desiring sex that they are unaware of. Loss of desire can occur for many reasons. It can be psychological/emotional, hormonal, social/cultural or physiological. Or it may be a combination of several of these factors. It’s very important to sort them out and address each issue.
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A mother is one that is ready to spend sleepless nights to keep company with the sick child so she can speak words of comfort to soothe the child.
A mother is a good dancer without music at very odd and critical time all to soothe the ailing child.
A mother is a good composer of lullabies needed to rock a restless baby to sleep.
A mother is ready to skip meals or go hungry just to ensure every member of the family has enough to eat.
A mother’s love for her child is unconditional. Even if he seems like a never-do-well, she strives to make him live a godly, meaningful life through her relentless love and prayers.
A mother learns from experience and counsels the child all through her lifetime to prevent the child from making the same mistakes she has made.
A mother is ready to sacrifice her pleasure, freedom, comfort and remain under the torture of a cruel husband all in a bid to preserve the future of the child from ruin.
A mother understands the unspoken feelings of a child. She not only hears, she listens in-depth to understand in-depth.
A mother keeps on forgiving and forgiving the wayward child, never disowning, never giving up, never tired of giving love, attention and other necessities just to ensure it is well with the child.
A mother prays and prays believing God’s hands to shape the life of the child.
A mother disciplines so the child is not indulged and become useless in the future. She remembers the child needs the rod to live straight.
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Too many men, however, do not seem to understand the emotional needs of these wives. They live a vastly different world, grappling with their own needs and frustrations. Either they are unable to put themselves in a woman’s shoes, to see and feel what she experiences or they are too preoccupied with their own work to listen to their wives. Women definitely have needs which men do not understand.
Recently, a research was carried out to find out the desires of women concerning their marriages, especially what they expect from their husbands. Below is a summary of the feedback received through questionnaire.
The following list, I believe, is largely a representation of the heart cry of most, if not all women. Although some of our findings are not new, yet they make all the difference between the woman enjoying her marriage or her enduring the relationship, and between a man enduring his wife or that man getting the best out of his wife.
1. Communication is of priority to the wives. Women said when men talk about themselves; the wives give both verbal and non-verbal support. Women are interested and engrossed in what their husbands have to say. But, unfortunately, the husbands appear to listen with only one ear when their wives talk. When they listen, all they probably want is the facts alone. Meanwhile, their wives would want them to catch and identify with feelings behind the story.
2. Wives want companionship from their husbands. After all, this is one of the major reasons for getting married. They want their men to crave their company above all else that no matter how busy, they should find time for moments of togetherness along with their wives.
3. Wives also wished that men would make provision for the family a priority. That they provide for the needs in the family reasonably and on time, too.
4. Wives wished they would be genuinely respected for their roles as wives and mothers. They want to have a feeling of personal worth for the duties they perform at home, and wished their husbands would appreciate them and say so. When men don’t show this appreciation, it makes their wives feel inadequate, unappreciated and, sometimes, worthlessly enslaved.
5. A lot of women said they appreciate husbands that respect their views and opinions on issues. They feel loved when their men share their views with them and not put their opinions down as “women talk”.
6. The task of raising kids can be stressful, tiring and frustrating, especially when they are small. Wives said they would cope without complaining, nagging or falling into depression if only their husbands would understand and commend them for doing an admirable job. Unfortunately, they complain that most men come in from work and ask their wives, “Darling, what did you do all day?” implying through such question that the women had been idle all day and had not done anything worthwhile.
7. Wives admire and are proud of their husbands when they are committed and devoted to a calling in God’s vineyard. Those who are converted and have unbelieving husbands said their greatest desire is to see their husbands converted and serve God together with them.
8. Wives wished their husbands would be well versed in the word of God so that they can take up their God-given position in the family as the priest of the home, directing things and taking decisions according to God’s standard.
9. Women respect their husbands more when they can vouch for their fidelity.
10. Wives appreciate men who pay attention to the spiritual and moral upbringing of their children and the upliftment of their wives. They appreciate it when their husbands pray with them on family issues. That way, the men gain their commitment and undying loyalty, they said.
11. Wives want men who are dependable and show they love their wives more than their in-laws, men who would stand by them and defend them before in-laws if the need arises.
12. Women do not appreciate it when they are compared with other women outside – believer or unbeliever. They expect their men to love them unconditionally.
13. Wives wish to be constantly affirmed by their husbands. The response of virtually all women interviewed is that they wish their husbands would affirm them by telling them, “Love you” as many times as possible even in a day. They claim it is a statement that makes them want to overstretch themselves for their men without looking back. Someone said, “ You’re nobody till somebody loves you.”
14. Self-esteem is only generated by what we see reflected about ourselves in the eyes of other people, especially our loved ones. Therefore, wives expect their husbands to understand their temperaments and appreciate them for who they are. They love men who would defend them publicly before others who may not have knowledge of their persons. Wives crave their husband’s acceptance.
15. Wives said they feel more inclined to respond to their husbands’ intimate fellowship later in the day when their men had been loving, considerate and romantic all day, (not just love at night). They claimed it is sour and unexciting submitting to men who treat them as dumb and ugly in the daytime; but request their bodies at night. When they submit, it is only to keep peace at home.
16. Women expect that their husbands would plan the family’s finances with them, take crucial decisions with them and stick to joint decisions taken. They said some men allow too much external interference and, sometimes, change a joint-decision taken between them and their wives. The result is that women are hurt and do not feel committed to whatever is the final consequence of their men’s independent actions.
17. Women want their men to be men of integrity. They expect them to be men good at their work and honest in all their dealings at home. It does not matter if they are doctors or dockworkers, just men who are hard-working, just men they can be proud of and who the children can look up to.
18. Wives also wished their husbands would continue to court or woo them, understanding the need to take them on outings once in a while. They want to go out with their husbands alone, at least to break the monotony of home chores and…. do something just for fun.
19. It is said that a family that prays together stays together. Wives love it when they are married to godly and prayerful men. They crave and look forward to the times shared together in prayer with their husbands. They know the immense blessings involved for the family. They know too that prayer knits the hearts of couples together.
20. Wives said they love and respect men who have goals, who have a direction. They love men who plan and prayerfully project for the family’s future. It is a fearful thing to follow planless, visionless and goalless men. Men that plan and carry along their wives with their plans most often realize such goals.
A successful husband and wife relationship begins with the attitude of the man; God has ordained him as the head of the family and responsibility for its stability rests squarely upon his shoulders. He leads and the wife follows. The husband has the mandate of a loving leader fir his family. He must recognize his wife’s feelings and hurts and take steps to end the pain. He must empathize and sympathize with his wife. What she wants, he wants and satisfies her needs. The wife too in response to his love, deeply respects, praises and obeys her husband. If and when this scriptural standard is applied in the family, all the yearnings above would be desires accomplished. There would
in essence be no need for broken hearts, shattered lives and ruined homes. Let us make our homes what God intends them to be, striving to live by God’s instructions and we would be happier for it.
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The greatest requirement for the home is UNITY. Unless there is unity in a home, Satan will enter into and destroy that home. Unity is the basis of the strength of the home. This is not a surface unity, but a unity of the Spirit. This unity comes as a result of mutual submission between the husband and wife in the fear of God. Unity of the Spirit recognizes that the final authority in the home is God and His word and not the husband nor the wife.
It is possible to disagree and still remain in the unity of the Spirit, if you have the right attitude. There is a great difference between disagreeing and being disagreeable, which is an attitude of heart. A husband and wife can disagree, even on principle, without disrupting the unity of the home. What happen is that the husband will make a final decision based on the Word of God and the wife submits to the Word of God which comes through her husband. As long as the heart attitude of the wife is correct, unity of the spirit is maintained and the peace in the home remains undisturbed. For the individual homes to be perfect, we must have and maintain hearts that are meek and humble.
Forgiveness is the first factor which is necessary for unity of the Spirit. We must learn to forgive one another. It is important to understand that forgiveness of another’s transgression should be done in obedience to the commandment of God to forgive, and not because the person deserves our forgiveness, or because we feel like forgiving the person. We are to forgive irrespective of our feelings at the time. There is no man who has never wronged another. The issue is not who is right and who is wrong, but let there be peace in the home. Whenever you try to fight for your own right you are already wrong and have opened the door to strife and every evil work. It is far better to forgive and commit the judgment to God, thereby keeping peace in the home.
Forgiveness is not an emotion. As a matter of fact your emotions may still be raw and edgy, but you make a decision of your will to forgive, saying so with your mouth, or, to your self in the heart.
Mutual Submission is the second factor for achieving unity of the spirit in a home. Through mutual submission in the fear of God, peace and unity is maintained in the home, thereby perfecting the marriage.
The third factor which is vital to maintaining unity of the spirit in the home is a wise communication. We need to understand that it is not every time that what is right and correct need to be verbalized. It is very wrong to condemn your wife or husband, even when you are right. There is a time for everything – even a time for speaking the truth, but always in love.
When your spouse is wrong, try to forgive, love and pray for him or her. Later, when the atmosphere is less prone to strife, you can then speak the truth in love, with wisdom given by the Spirit guarantees that your words will not engender more strife, but rather will break the bone of contention which may have arisen between you and your spouse. We need the wisdom of God to know what to say and when and how to speak – or when not to say anything at all!
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The first step is to realize what you’re REALLY trying to
accomplish. What does it REALLY mean to get over the
past?
You can’t change what happened. There’s no time machine
that can send you back to relive the past. What’s done is
done.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that your situation
is hopeless. What I’m saying is that you first have to be clear
about what you can and cannot change. You CAN get over
your past (as I’ll explain). But you canNOT change events
that already occurred.
The good news though, is that you don’t have to change the
past in order to get over it. What you have to change is the
MEANING of the past.
Think for a moment. Was there ever a time in your life when
something horrible happened and you thought, “Why is this
happening to me?”
But then a few years later you looked back and you could
answer that question. In retrospect, you understood why it
happened. At first, it seemed like the world was caving in.
Later, it all made sense.
In fact, very often, we eventually realize that bad times are
part of a process that leads to something good!
It’s the events that FOLLOW bad times that determine the
ultimate meaning of those times.
In other words, it’s your future that determines your past;
not the other way around. And since YOU are in charge of
your future, then YOU determine the meaning of your past.
It’s interesting to think about this in the context of an age-old
question: Do we have free choice or is everything
predetermined? The answer is YES. Everything is
predetermined AND we have free choice.
It’s like when you play a card game. You get dealt a hand.
And you have no control over the cards you get dealt. It’s
predetermined.
But you also get to play that hand. You also have free choice.
Ultimately, it’s the COMBINATION of the hand you’re dealt
and the way you play it that determines the outcome. And
it’s the outcome that shapes your view of the original hand
you were dealt.
I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Bible, but it’s
interesting to note that in Chapter 1 of Genesis, God says,
“Let US make man in our image.” Look at that verse again:
“Let US make man in our image.” Who is “us?” Who is God
talking to? There wasn’t anyone created yet.
The answer is: God is talking to US. He’s talking to me. He’s
talking to YOU. And He’s saying that YOU are partners with
Him in the creation of your life.
(There are other explanations for this verse too.)
God deals you a hand. There’s nothing you can do to change
that. But you get to play that hand. You get to respond to the
events of your life. And it’s your response, your actions in
the future, which determine the meaning of the events
in your past.
So how do you get over the past? You don’t have to get over
the past. The past is over! What’s important is the
MEANING the past has for you NOW. And the MEANING
of your past is determined by your actions in the future.
The people I know who have the best marriages are people
who went through hell in their relationship. They “got over”
their past because they used it as a catalyst to IMPROVE
their situation.
In other words, the painful events inspired them to change
themselves and their marriage. And many people I know began
this process WITHOUT their spouse.
If you make the right moves, you will come to view certain
events as birth pains that led to a new AND IMPROVED
marriage. THAT’S how you “get over” the past.
It’s strange how life works sometimes, but if you play your
hand right, your hurts become part of your healing.
And, in fact, when it comes to relationships, it’s usually bad
times that awaken people to search for new ways.
I know you’re hurting. But if you’ll allow me to show you
how to rebuild your marriage, show you new ways, your
hurt will heal. I can’t make the past go away.
But I can help you give it a new meaning. Then, you’ll be
“over it.” And you’ll have a GOOD answer to the question:
Why did this happen to me?
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Marriage is a partnership and companionship and it is a covenant between two people.
In other to achieve marriage harmony, we need to;
ü 1. Embrace or accept oneness, embrace it as a reality. Oneness means loving the same thing, oneness means having one purpose, one ministry, one spirit. We need to understand the process of teamwork. By the way permit me to ask this question and that is “How does great team emerge? They emerge by spending time together, practicing together under a good coach and in one communication. In marriage, harmony can be achieved by spending time together, doing things together under the leadership of God. A great marriage works as a team.
ü Reject every tendency for selfishness and competition between you and your spouse. Do not force your way through in an argument.
ü Esteem other better than yourself.
ü Don’t fix your mind on your own need, desire or things that will make you happy. Commit yourself to the need of your spouse.
ü Learn to develop the mind of Christ that is a humble mind.
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You can survive infidelity by melting your anger, rage and hurt into understanding. Try to be patient though be tough, have the right words, the one that will make your partner to turn a new leaf.
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Having an extramarital affairs takes a great deal of energy. Why can’t you put this energy into improving or reviving your relationship? It is better to focus this energy on yourself and your partner rather than on someone else. You have to be honest with yourself and to your partner. What is missing in your relationship can be find again if you can end the affair and you and your partner can get on with your lives, you dialogue and sort out issues. You don’t have to complicate issues by having an affair.
So, if you are having an affair, stop a moment and ask why you are having it and what the future will be for you. If you are thinking of starting one, watch out, there are a lot of people who have scars to show for it, it is really not as simple as that.
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